Hello Sweet Readers! Please bear with me this week because I feel it is necessary to make some apologies. First, I want to apologize to Terry for my behaviour in the chat room yesterday, it was not appropriate for someone who has the magazine's address on her bio line. I didn't represent the rest of the writers and the staff in a very professional manor.
Then I would like to apologize to a certain person in the chat room yesterday, while I am not at all sorry for saying something to you, I am truly sorry for the way I expressed myself. It was totally out of character for me and my language was very unladylike. I am not going to use an excuse as to why I was in the mood I was in or for singling you out with my comments. I merely was having a bad day and snapped on you for something that has bothered me for several months.
I would also like to apologize to a very dear friend of mine who merely made a suggestion for a column topic and it lead to an arguement. I love you very much and you have been there so many times for me all through our friendship and I cannot begin to thank you for all the little things you say and do that you probably don't even realize that you did, but that I have taken to heart and cherish. We now know that there are a few issues that we will never see eye to eye on but I pray that those differences don't come between us. We just now know what we can't talk about and as far as I am concerned they are subjects that are not important enough to lose a friend over. While they are very passionate topics to each of us, they are not something that good friends should let tear them apart. I am making this apology public because I want you to know just how serious I am about wanting to make ammends with you for my inappropriate behaviour.
I would also like to thank someone special who, knowing I was having a very bad day, called me and was willing to listen and offer some very good advice. That meant quite a lot to me and some day I hope that I can return that kindness when he is in need of a friend.
As I posted in the room yesterday, I will not be chatting on gay.com for at least a while. The room has become somewhere that it is no longer a pleasure to go into and chat and laugh and have a little get away from the world and its stresses. The last few times I have gone in there you can feel the anger and the hatred and the bad atmosphere. Conversation is no longer aimed toward how are you, how have you been, lets get together and have some fun; it has no turned into spams that spew filth and insults, arguements, drama, and general ill feeling. If you want to carry on a descent conversation you have to block over half of the people in the room or are forced to private chat with someone just to see what they have to say without trying to sort through all the garbage being flooded into the room. Yesterday I left the room in far worse condition than when I entered. I made the mistake of going into the room when I was feeling low and emotional with the crazy thought that I would find some friends and have a laugh and it would help me to rise above the day I was having, instead I ended up frustrated and angry and lowered myself to the tone in the room and swore. I appologize to anyone in the room who I consider a friend who witnessed my loss of control and saw me use the d word. That was totally out of character and said purely from a place inside me where an evil person lives and who I pray never finds her way out in public again.
To all of those who I am blessed to claim as a friend and who cares about me and likes me, I will miss you and hope that you don't forget me and that you drop me a little note in my email (sweetcinnyluvsu@yahoo.com ) and let me know how you are and I will return your message and keep in contact with you. To those of you who don't like me and think I don't belong in the room because I am a straight woman and it is a gay chat room, I wish you the best of luck, I have no ill feelings toward you, and I sincerely hope that you find everything in life that makes you happy. I am also praying for a few certain people in the room who have been the center of all the controversy and who I can only imagine are so lonely and miserable that they find it necessary to spoil a good thing for others. It saddens me that anyone is hurting so much that they cannot find it in themself anywhere to say a kind word to anyone else, who can only bring themselves to sit in a chat room for hours filling it with their hatred and causing ill feelings among those who enter the room. Who's pleasure and delight comes from others anger and who gets a sick twisted sense of accomplishment when they become the center of attention in the room because everyone focuses their exasperation toward them. Life is far too short to spend it arguing and fighting, I myself, choose to spend what little time I could have left meeting people and getting along and making someone smile. We are not guaranteed that we will see tomorrow so why can't we make today a delight to live in?
Until Next Week, Dear Ones, Love & Hugz! Leeza Hello Sweet Readers! It has been brought to my attention that people that I meet in the chat rooms don't know who or what I am. So, this week I will tell you all about me. Let me begin by saying that I am a woman, I am not a drag queen, a tranny, a transsexual, transgender, male in any way. I was born a woman and intend to stay one. I am also a straight woman, not lesbian or bi or bi curious. I chat in the gay chat room because I have friends in there, pure and simple. I am a little over 40 and I have a 22 year old son named Richard who attends Marshall University in Huntington, WV who is studying psychology and forensic sciences. I have cats and dogs and I love animals. My cats are my sanity saving helpers, without whom I would spend long hours alone. They are a constant joy and source of amusement. Outside of chatting and writing my interests include playing online games, making angels, crocheting, reading, listening to music and singing, doing puzzles and just about anything that is creative. I love to watch sports, mainly football, baseball and hockey but I have been known to watch nascar occasionally and golf, but only when totally bored or checking to see how Tiger is doing. Unlike most of you, I live in the beautiful state of Ohio but travel through the equally beautiful state of WV several times a year. At the moment I don't get as much time to visit my dear friends when I do pass through but as soon as I can get my transportation problem fixed, watch out, I will be popping up at a bar near you! I miss getting to hang out with my wonderful friends that I have made and met in person through the chat room and this amazing magazine. Those of you I have met, I hold very dear to my heart. Those of you who I have yet to meet, I know will find your own special place there as well. I am so excited to get to come to the Terry Awards to see and meet you. PLEASE, come up and say hi to me if I don't get around to you, don't let me leave without at least the chance to give you a hug and say thank you. I feel truly blessed that you have opened your arms and accepted me into your community like I actually belong. Even though I am not chatting in the room at this time, I do still think of you and pray that God is watching over you and blessing you and keeping you all safe and healthy. Until Next Week, Dear Ones, Love & Many Hugz! Leeza Hello Sweet Readers! I just finished watching a movie called Trantasia. It’s a documentary about the first World’s Most Beautiful Transsexual Contest from the Riviera Hotel in Las Vegas. The winner receiving $5000 in cash and a trip to the Virgin Islands. The event is hosted by a world famous former show girl Jahna Steele. The first time I watched the movie I was interrupted about half way through but had seen enough of it that I had to go back and watch it again, this time with my notebook taking notes as things unfolded and I was let peek into the life of a transgendered person. Several contestants stood out to me and I found myself rooting for them to win. I thought the main idea of being a transgendered person was to be someone who wanted the rest of the world to accept you the way you are and the sex you choose to be acknowledged as, but one of the girls confused this thinking. I was impressed at how far from where she started that a girl named Tiara had come and things that had happened in her young life that some would have used as an excuse to wallow in the bad luck life had given them. It warmed my heart to see how far she had come and made something out of herself. But, as the movie progressed I found myself with far more questions about her commitment to not only the community but to herself and who she wanted to be. She made a comment about her death and stated when she died she didn’t want to be layed out in her casket as a woman. I had to rewind the movie and listen again and sure enough she said she wanted to be in her casket dressed as a man with only a picture of her as Tiara. Another girl who stood out to me was Maria Roman, a Puerto Rican born curvy beauty with a quiet, classy personality who while listening to her story I learned had been in a not so good profession in her younger days but who now does a lot of charity work for the AIDS community in Los Angeles and who walks the streets among the "girls" of the night and passes out condoms and pamphlets and talks to them about protecting themselves. She is living out her life’s greatest dream with her husband of 10 years and seemed to grounded and down to earth. Someone who would be a treat to have in ones circle of friends and just hang out with and have coffee. Cassandra Cass made me laugh, she was witty and classy and commanded attention. She has done a calander and hopes that it will not only speak to younger transsexuals but also will be something that little Susie from Kansas can look at and say I want to be just like her. She spoke of how hard it was as a young boy to find good beautiful role models in the transgender community. My favorite thing she said was that hopefully when people looked at her they didn’t see male or female, they saw a human being. Dark and lovely South Carolina born, Dorae Saunders was open and outspoken and played football in her younger days as a boy named Jullian in Columbia. She took a huge step all in one day, she looked in her closet, reached in and threw out everything male and bought a brand new wardrobe. It was very touching when her grandmother talked about being proud of her and to see how supportive her family is, that is a blessing that not all transgenders can share. I laugh out loud when she told the story about going into church after a lenghthy absence and stood up to give her testimony and when she got to the part about being a transsexual she said it was so quiet in that place you "could hear a rat piss on cotton". Her talent blew me away when she performed as Tina Turner. You Go Girl! Only thing that bothered me about Dorae was after the competition she was a little less than gracious, but I chalked that up to disappointment with her finish, something I agree with she should have at the least been in the top 8 contestants. Someone who, to me, really represents the transgender community with style and grace and every day girl on the street class is Erica Andrews. A gorgeous Mexican beauty from San Antonio, she has come a long way from her humble beginnings and from the little boy who used to visit his father at "work" at the prison. Out of the spotlight and glam of the pageant, Erica was just a down to earth pony tail wearing, jeans and tshirt kinda girl with minimal makeup and womanly style. I smiled and a tear came to eye when they showed a segment about her helping a young beginning transsexual named Rudy who she has been mentoring and helping to discover the beautiful woman withing and guiding her to know what she needs to do to take the next step toward her rebirth as a woman. Major kudos Erica! One girl I wish they had focus a little more on was one named Marie. I would have liked to have heard more of her story and known where she came from. But the movie left me wanting more in this area. After the girls visited the Vegas strip and the publicity, she was extremely upset with some of the girl’s behaviour and I wish they would have interviewed her a bit more on that subject. There was only one girl that I found a little offensive, ok I found her greatly offensive.Her name is Delilah. I found myself hoping she didn’t win. She not only wasn’t very classy, she wouldn’t be a good role model for either young transsexuals but also young girls. She talked very crudly, she was flashing her breasts in public and letting people play with her nipples. She was always trying to make sexual inuendos and air-kissing toward the interviewers and fluffing her hair. A less than classy woman who just looked slutty and cheap. The winner of the contest was a very classic beauty named Mimi Marks. From her understated make-up to her gorgeous golden tresses, she embodied all good things about womanhood that make up a truly classy person. I found pleasure in watching her interacting with her family and giggled at her picking up trash at the local dairy queen as the ending to the segment about her first job there. She made a comment that I think would go for any transgendered female trying hard to be accepted in the main stream world, Mimi says that, for transwomen in Chicago, the test of whether they can pass as women is to appear in public at Wrigley’s Field, home of the Cubs: ""If you could walk through Wrigley-ville, like, during a Cubs game and not get 'spooked,' and not have anybody call you out, you were like the 'girl-iest' girl, you made it. I called [a friend] and said, 'I am at a Cubs game on first base, eleventh row. I made it. I'm a girl!'" It made me a little sad when she said she worked at a club and didn’t really know how to do anything else and that she would have already had her surgery but the club requires that you be pre-op and if she had the surgery she would lose her job. I agreed with the judges decision on her being the winner. If you haven’t seen this movie you should check it out! On a very sad ending note, the hostess of the pageant, the beautiful talented, Jahna Steele recently passed away on January 24th, 2008. She will be greatly missed. Until Next Week, Dear Ones, Love & Many Hugz! Leeza Hello Sweet Readers! I know that the primary elections are upon us and it doesn’t matter who you are planning to vote for, republican or democrat, the main thing is that you do vote. You might not think that your vote matters one way or the other but if enough YOUs don’t vote it makes a big difference. There are many countries all over the world where the people wish they could vote on who their leaders are but can’t and here in America, everyone is free to vote and yet most don’t. Don’t get scared or ready to be offended, I am not here to try and tell you what to vote for or who you should support. I am not even going to tell you who I will vote for, that is a private thing between you and your ballot in your little booth. That’s why we can feel free to vote our mind and not have to worry about retaliation for the way we voted. Annonymity. It doesn’t take all that long, it doesn’t require you be rich or pay some entrance fee, it doesn’t hurt, and it definitely is something you shouldn’t just not do. The constitution gave the right to everybody to vote and not have to pass a test or pay poll taxes anymore. You can be black, white, oriental, native american, natural born or naturalized, male, female, transexual, christian, jew, catholic, or muslim. It is one thing that everybody can do and is equally fair and available. How many things can you say that about? I don’t know about West Virginia but I know in Ohio you can even go to your local board of elections any time before you primary election and vote there so you miss the rush on election day. And if for some reason you can’t get around very well or don’t see good, they will even bring a ballot to your car or there is a machine that makes the type larger so you can see to vote. There really are NO excuses because even if you don’t have a way to get there or can’t get out of your house, someone will come and get you or you can vote absentee. Now, what excuse can you find? Every American over the age of 18 should be registered to vote and use that right! Until Next Week, Dear Ones, Love & Many Hugz! Leeza Hello Sweet Readers! What has our world come to? In researching my article this week I have chosen a subject that saddened me and sickened me at the same time. While listening to my television the other day, I heard a word on there pertaining to pedophiles, NAMBLA (North American Man/Boy Love Association) , there is also one for women and girls. An open organization for pedophiles. So I began looking to see just how open these people really are, and how accessible these organizations are for people to join. The results of my search totally blew me away. I found that in the Netherlands there is a whole political party who is trying not only to get hard drugs legalized for people 16 or older and soft drugs for people 12 and older, they are also trying to get the voting age lowered to 12 and the age of concent lowered to 12 as well with hopes of eventually getting it eliminated all together. The PNVD, or Party for Neighborly Love, Freedom, and Diversity, was founded on May 31, 2006 by Ad van den Berg, Norbert de Jonge, and Marthijn Uittenbogaard. I can’t comprehend how they can believe that a 12 year old is not only old enough to know they want to have sex but also to know how to make an informed mature decision on political issues and drugs. There is no wonder that the straight community gets the wrong idea about gays and lesbians and thinks that they support or engage in pedophilia when all over the world they allow open pedophiles to join in gay pride parades and hand out flyers. That should be stopped, and the two factions seperated. I am all for the community as a whole accepting diversity, but that is not a type of diversity that we as adults should condone. The more it is accepted and the lower the age of concent is lowered the less we are going to be able to protect our children from being taken advantage of and molested. If the age of concent is 12 then how can a parent get justice for their 13 or 14 year old son or daughter when a teacher or other adult figure seduces them into bed? We can’t, we have then embrassed divertisy right into endangering our children who have been given to us to nurture and protect. In further research I came across organizations of gay and lesbian members who are pedophiles and have several web sites promoting it as well. I don’t care if you are straight, gay, black, white, or from the planet mars, sexual relations with a child is just wrong! There are even sites that instruct you how to get away with stalking children and not getting caught. This world saddens me and finding out all these things has given me a very heavy heart today. Below is a list of some of the worlds most famous pedophiles: Many ancient Greek poets and philosophers Dante Goethe Pierre de Ronsard (1524-1585. French poet.) Cellini (Autobiography reprinted by Penguin 1993) Remy Belleaue (Fren ch contemporary of Ronsard) Andrew Marvell (1621-78; famous metaphysical poet and satirist) Samual Peyps Novalis Lord Byron Lewis Carroll John Ruskin Edward Lear Charles Kingsley Edgar Allen Poe Hugh Walpole Anton Bruckner (1824-96; famous Austrian composer) A.E. Houseman Mark Twain Walt Whitman Gauguin Benjamin Britten (see Faber's 1992 biography and the letters) E.M. Forster Frederico Garcia Lorca (Spanish poet and playwright) J.M. Barrie Henry James Andre Gide Mogidliani (artist, fell in love with Jeanne H when she was 14) Thomas Mann Forrest Reid W.H. Auden Field Marshall Montgomery Arthur Ransome John Barrymore (actor) T.H. White William Carlos Williams (?) Howard Hughes Lord Baden-Powell (Founder of the Boy-Scouts, was definitely gay, and several biogs suspect attraction to young boys) T.E. Lawrence Sir Roger Casement Anne Saxton (poet; had incestious relationship with daughter, according to biog.) Charlie Chaplin Errol Flynn Lord Reith (founder of the BBC) William Douglas Jerry Lee Lewis Chuck Berry Roman Polanski Here is one site that I got quite a bit of information from, if you are a parent or have children in your life who you love and want to protect, you might want to know just how easy it is for pedophiles to prey on your innocent angels. http://www.cerius.org/community/index.htm Until Next Week, Dear Ones, Love & Many Hugz! Leeza Next ones are at , Http://straightup2.wordpress.com

bravenet.com